Let the Balance Begin

My name is Lynda and I am a FaceBook Gameaholic. My last game play was June 17.

All kidding aside, this has been going on for two years and I feel as though I have just come out of an all-encompassing fog and serious obsession. I was playing several games at a time, starting with Farmville and Farm Town, then moving into Café World, Frontierville, CityVille, with other lesser games coming and going during this two year period. I would get up in the middle of the night to harvest crops and earn lots of coin. I rushed home from work so that I could make my recipes and put more on the stoves to cook. Forget about cooking a real dinner; I was out of control.

And this wasn’t the fault of Face Book or the games themselves. The games are fun and there are literally millions of people playing the games and living fairly normal lives.

No, the fault was mine.

I couldn’t control the amount of time I played the games. If there were quests to complete, I had to complete them in the fastest time possible. I would spend hours planting crops on one game, then move over to another game to harvest other crops. It was completely my own fault that I was unable to control my time and be strict with myself about boundaries as to how long to spend on a game, how many different games to play at one time or when to finish for the night and go to bed!! It was an out of control obsession and I owned it completely.

There were up-sides to my game playing – I met several very nice, warm people on line who were always there to help me advance in my game playing, to send me a gift, water my crops, help build a barn, and so on. I have friends from all over the world, from Australia, Hong Kong, Denmark, England, the US and other parts of Canada. But it’s time to move on … if I must be addicted to something, and knowing me, I probably will be, it must something positive. Something that I can learn from at the end of the day.

The up-side to not playing the games is more positive that the up-side to playing. I have de-cluttered several areas I my house, I’ve tossed out three bags of clothes, shredded tons of paper and generally improved the look of my house by several degrees!!

While this is a new recovery, I have learned some things about myself and about time management in the process. Some may seem obvious, but it’s easy not to see the obvious when in the middle of an obsessive addiction. I hope to share what I’ve learned through the blog.

Hence, the blog. I’m not sure yet where it’s going, but I want it to have a positive effect on me and those who read it.  Imbalance in our lives come in all shapes and forms, and we all need to be deal with it if we want to live normal, productive lives.

Comments

  1. Lynda, it’s so great to meet you! =) I stumbled upon your blog through the LinkedIn group we share and loved the humility in both your message and in this post. We can all relate to imbalance and what a great idea to use your blog to assist you in keeping on track, living life the way you truly want to live it. I found that blogging has helped me in a similar way. I use it to remind myself to reflect on the little things in life — it’s always a reminder in gratitude and living more simply. =)

    Take good care of yourself and I look forward to reading more! =)

    • I’m very please that you stumbled upon my blog! And thank you so much for your very nice comment. I’ve spent some time getting the blog to look the way I want, but I think I’m beginning to use that as a way to procrastinate the actual start of regular blogging :(

      I don’t think I realized how hard it would be to actually put myself ‘out there’.

      However, I will do it and I really am looking forward to blogging all things related to balance in our lives. Thanks again Samantha :)

  2. Hi Lynda,

    Lovely to see you kick starting your blog and booting some other undesirable habits. Don’t worry, we all have them but I love what you say about blogging:

    “I want it to have a positive effect on me and those who read it.”

    That has been the case for me and it’s a beautiful thing. I hope blogging brings you as much joy as it has me:)

    • Thanks so much Annabel. I am very excited and very nervous about moving forward, but I think the excited part is winning!

      I’m slowly working my way through your great book, and also trying to get everything in place before I commit to a posting schedule. I’m thinking that this won’t take too much longer :)

      Lynda

  3. I love organizing stuff and I get great pleasure when I get rid of stuff. It makes me so happy but it never stays nice and neat.

    Followed you from Sitsclass

    • I wish that I loved organizing stuff, but I don’t!! It’s always a chore to get to it, and I can always find something else to do that is (in my mind) more important. I have to say, though, that it is very ‘freeing’ when the stuff is gone. Thanks for visiting!!

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